You Do Not Need to Know Exactly What You Are Healing From

You might have a clear reason for wanting to heal.

You might not.

You might be carrying grief, fear, exhaustion, anger, loneliness, disappointment or things you do not have words for.

You may simply feel as though you have been surviving for a long time.

You are allowed to begin caring for yourself before you fully understand why you are hurting.

You do not need to investigate every feeling while you are already overwhelmed.

You can notice what is happening without forcing yourself to explain it.

If the same difficulty keeps returning, you can pay attention to that gently. You do not have to solve it immediately.

What Healing Can Look Like Today

Healing is often described as a large journey, but today it may look very ordinary.

It may look like:

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  Pausing before agreeing to something you do not have the energy for
  
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  Eating before you become completely depleted
  
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  Letting yourself leave a room that feels overwhelming
  
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  Asking someone to repeat themselves
  
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  Resting before everything is finished
  
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  Making your surroundings feel a little safer or softer
  
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  Choosing not to answer a message immediately
  
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  Doing something familiar with your hands
  
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  Allowing yourself to feel uncertain without demanding an answer
  
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  Returning to something that helped you once before
  

These actions may not look important from the outside.

They still count.

You are not failing because your beginning is small.

A small beginning is still a beginning.

When You Do Not Know What You Need

You may not be able to identify exactly what would help.

That is okay.

Instead of asking, “What do I need to heal?”, try asking a smaller question.

If Everything Feels Too Loud

Reduce one source of noise or stimulation.

You might:

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  Lower the television
  
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  Dim a light
  
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  Close a door
  
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  Move away from a busy area
  
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  Put your phone face down
  
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  Wear headphones or ear protection
  
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  Wrap yourself in a blanket
  
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  Focus on one object rather than the whole room
  

You are not shutting the world out forever.

You are giving yourself a quieter moment.

If You Feel Restless or Unable to Settle

Give the restless energy somewhere safe to go.

You might:

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  Walk slowly around the room
  
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  Push your hands against a wall
  
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  Carry something with a little weight
  
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  Shake out your hands
  
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  Stretch without trying to reach a particular position
  
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  Scribble firmly on paper
  
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  Sweep a small area
  
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  Sort or stack objects
  

You do not need to make yourself completely still.

Sometimes movement is the steadier choice.

If You Feel Flat, Numb or Far Away

Use simple sensations that are noticeable but not overwhelming.

You might:

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  Hold something cool
  
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  Wash your hands in warm water
  
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  Smell soap, tea, herbs or clean fabric
  
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  Eat something with a clear flavour
  
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  Place your feet firmly on the floor
  
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  Name the colours you can see
  
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  Wrap your hands around a warm drink
  
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  Touch an object with a strong texture
  

Do not force yourself to feel something dramatic.

You are simply giving yourself a small point of contact with the present moment.

If You Feel Heavy or Exhausted

Make the task smaller rather than demanding more energy from yourself.

You could:

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  Sit down to complete something
  
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  Use a paper plate instead of washing dishes
  
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  Eat something that needs little preparation
  
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  Leave a non-urgent task for another day
  
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  Put essential items beside you
  
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  Rest before deciding what comes next
  
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  Ask someone for one specific kind of help
  

You do not have to prove that you are exhausted enough to rest.